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Have Men Departed from Masculine Stereotypes in Dating?

In my experience as a dating coach, some men and women are still pretty traditional.  Many singles are confused about gender roles when dating and some men and women are consciously departing from traditional gender stereotypes in order to create more equal romantic relationships.

In the past, women were attracted to men who could protect and provide and men were attracted to beautiful fertile, nurturing women.  Men were reportedly more focused on work and women upon relationships.

But here are some factoids that support the idea that these gender roles are changing:

  • 81% of men polled considered personal development and family more important than money
  • Another study showed that men may now be more willing than women to sacrifice achievement goals for a romantic relationship.
  • In one survey 56% of men said that women and men should take turns paying for dates.  Another survey showed that 66% of women believed that men should pay!  So in this area in which men are becoming more modern than women!

Men may be realizing that they are more than a wallet and they can be fulfilled in life and relationships by more than having a paycheck and window office.

By the same token, women may wish to be fulfilled by their passions and gifts in the outer world as well as being a mother and homemaker.

These new realizations can be the impetus for more shared roles at work and at home but this new consciousness and wholeness begins with dating.

Are men comfortable with a woman paying sometimes?  Are they attracted to a woman who makes more or is more successful at their career?  What if she suggests a date idea or offers a differing opinion?  Many dating experts say these things make a woman unattractive to a man.  So men, is that how you feel, or is this changing?  Do you feel manly when a woman is assertive in love?

To consider the issue of changing the gender roles in dating, order my upcoming bookWhen Mars Women Date: How Career Women love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (www.mydatingschool.com), author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on MSN.com, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek, Lifetime.com, More, Match.com, Foxnews.com, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams can ebook be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website: www.whenmarswomendate.com!