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Are Chores More Equally Divided with Couples? What About When They Both Work?

Men used to mow the lawn, take out the garbage and fix things.  They did the “manly chores” while the women did everything else.  Even now that both sexes work, there are still vestiges of these gender preferences in tasks.

Single career women complain to me that they don’t want to get married if they have to take care of a man like he was also a child.  They want an equal partner.

Here are some factoids:

40% of high achieving wives say that their husbands create more work for them!  Only 5% of husbands take primary responsibility for taking care of the house, 9% for meals and 10% for laundry.

45% of men said they’d have no problem taking care of the house if their wife was the breadwinner.  But when that was the case, 30% did the primary housekeeping and 18% shared it!

This is something that can be discussed early on in dating or when living together.  Notice whether your mate does his own laundry, likes to cook, cleans or at least is willing to hire a maid.  Discuss your ideas on how to make this work in a way that respects you both, so all areas of your lives can be balanced.

To explore how single career women can pick men who’ll help out on the home front, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!