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For What Reasons Are People Committing Today?

Many single women say that men don’t want to marry anymore.  They feel men prefer to date around and remain bachelors because they don’t have a biological clock.  Many single women still want marriage but they focus first on their careers, knowing that technology can extend their biological clocks, at least for awhile.  Some single men complain to me that women don’t seem to need them in the same way anymore.  Women now make their own money and are even having kids on their own.

But despite the confusion and possible disappointment involved in changing gender roles, people are still committing.  And perhaps the reasons to marry are changing and gender stereotypes don;t come into play as much.

Let’s look at some factoids:

93% of adults said love was a very important reason to marry.  87% said companionship, 59% said children and 31% said it was financial stability.

When asked to evaluate traits in a good partner, the most important traits were:  being a good parent, being caring and compassionate and putting family first.  Only 32% of men thought that being good at household chores was important in a partner.

67% thought that it was very important for a man to support his family in order to be ready for marriage but only 33% said the same thing about a woman.  I find this item interesting because one would assume it was important for any adult to support themselves to be ready for marriage.  Why is it still more important for men?

Take a moment to ask yourself what would make you commit to a partner and what you think the opposite sex would need to commit?  Is it based on love and full acceptance or gender stereotypic roles?  Does a certain vision come with marriage or can you co-create your own?  Please share any related comments.

To explore what qualities you need to commit in romantic relationships and in dating, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!