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Is Marriage Becoming Obsolete or Are Relationships Just Changing?

In a Pew Research Center survey in 2011, 39% of respondents said that marriage was becoming obsolete.  I’m not sure if this is due to the high divorce rate or the fact that women don’t need men to financially provide in the same way.  Many people have children without wedlock or some single parents have them alone.  Many couples have spiritual partnerships without a legal agreement.  I am in no way passing judgment on this (pro or con), I’m just describing what is so.

And whether marriages continue or not, the roles of partners in marriages are changing.  In a survey 62% of respondents endorsed marriages where both parents worked and took care of the household and children.  72% of young adults below 30 said that this was a more satisfying way of life.

So, the type of relationships that our parents or grandparents had may not be what our children create.

How do you feel about that?  Do you miss the simple days when roles were clear and people remained together whether they were happy or not?  How was this beneficial to kids and how is it not?  Do you consider alternative forms of relationships for yourself and are you stopped by possible judgment?  Has your faith in marriage increased or decreased in the new millennium?  What kind of marriage might you fully stand behind?  Can you create it?  Please share your thoughts…

To explore alternative relationships and what works in committed relationships, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:


Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!