Your browser (Internet Explorer 7 or lower) is out of date. It has known security flaws and may not display all features of this and other websites. Learn how to update your browser.


Messages from Dating Experts About Gender Stereotypes:

Why do some of the most popular, best-selling authors and  dating experts (like John Gray, the Millionaire Matchmaker, Steve Harvey, Dr. Pat Allen, The Rules authors and many others) advise women (to differing degrees) to be passive on dates, not to share their accomplishments, not to pay or ask men out and, they warn women that men won’t be attracted to them if they do these things?  Is this the message we want to give this generation of working women?

I remember when I was single much of this dating advice did not work for me.  And now as a psychologist and dating coach I witness wonderfully talented women hiding the fact that they are lawyers and doctors for fear that single men won’t like their success.  These messages are everywhere.  Please imagine if this is how you want your daughter to think and feel in her romantic relationships?

There are few dating books (if any) that expose these gender stereotypes and games as unhealthy ways to attract love and build a successful lifetime relationship.

To explore what dating advice doesn’t fit the Mars Woman in romantic relationships and what does and why, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

*Permission to use excerpt with proper attribution


About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!