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What about Women? Have They Departed from Feminine Dating Stereotypes?

Women have long been told by dating experts to be passive, receptive and quiet on dates.  They were told not to discuss their accomplishments, not to give advice and not to take the lead in suggesting date ideas or asking a man out.  The underlying premise was that opposite energies attract so a woman needs to be ‘Feminine.’

Women traditionally chose men to provide and protect.  They tended the home front while the man brought home the income.  Today most women work and they’re starting to look for other qualities in men, including shared childcare, emotional support and domestic help.

Here are some factoids that support this shift in consciousness:

In one survey, 91% of women said they would marry for love over money.

In 2007, 22% of women made more money than their husbands.

A 2011 study revealed that both sexes highly endorse financial gender equality in relationships but they don’t yet endorse role reversal.

Women are getting more comfortable with the idea that men can make as much as them and can help out at home, but most still aren’t comfortable with the idea that they could be the breadwinners while their man chooses to remain home.

But today one out of five men are stay-at-home dads and I think this will increase as time goes on.  As men and women work towards becoming whole and uniting their Masculine and Feminine sides within, either partner can do either job, depending upon the circumstances and the people involved.

Today women are starting to view men differently but many women still want men to pay on dates and they would still rather care more for their kids.  What roles are women willing to relinquish to men?  What new roles are they willing to embrace?  What do you think about this in your own life?  Women please respond.

To explore changing roles and relationship visions for women in romantic relationships, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!