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3 Ways Women Can Be More Assertive In Dating:

  1. STATE YOUR OPINION:  If he realizes that you have a good mind from the start, this will either attract or repel him.  Better you know from the start.
  2. DO SOMETHING NON-TRADITIONAL:  If you don’t want to be pegged in a gender stereotyped relationship, than try something out of the box.  Hold the door for him, buy him a flower, offer to pay or initiate a kiss first.  Does he balk or is he reassured by a woman who is confident and clear.
  3. SHARE YOUR SUCCESSES & PASSIONS:   If you want to date a man who has high self-esteem and is a feminist, share your successes and see if he supports who you are.  Does he feel it will overshadow him or the relationship or can he applaud your full potential in the world?  Does that fit his definition of love?

If you want to learn more about how to date as a feminist, read my new book:When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves Into the Relationship of Their Dreams, by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman on; or sign up for When Mars Women Date Newsletter, to know when the print version is released along with details about our community, services, and upcoming events.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of “Dating from the Inside Out”, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times. Her new book,When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves Into the Relationship of Their Dreams e-book can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December. Learn more on her website:!