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5 Ways Balanced Partners Lead to Better Partnerships:

1. BOTH PEOPLE HAVE A BETTER WORK/LIFE BALANCE:  When both men and women work and care for the kids then they have more balance within and in the relationship.

2. THE RELATIONSHIP HAS MORE FLEXIBILITY:  If someone loses a job, has an illness or has to care for a child, the other partner can work more or stay home more.

3. BOTH PEOPLE ARE FULFILLED AT WORK AND IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP:  Sometimes if one person is always working to support the family, they have less time for romance or parenting.  In contrast, sometimes when just one partner stays home they can feel unfulfilled in the outer world.  (This is not always the case).  But, when both partners work, they can address both parts of their psyche.

4. BOTH PEOPLE CAN ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER’S GOALS: In the past women were the cheerleader behind the man.  They supported their kids, husband, his career and their household needs.  Oftentimes her needs and dreams were unknown or unsupported.  Today both partners can be cheerleaders in each other’s goals and can help one another achieve them.

5. CHILDREN HAVE ROLE MODELS OF TWO WHOLE PEOPLE:  In the past mommy represented the home and daddy represented the outside world.  As a result our daughters automatically assumed they could not be CEOs or astronauts.  Today if they have role models of both parents doing both roles, the world will be full of possibility for them-male or female.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of “Dating from the Inside Out”, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times. Her new book,When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves Into the Relationship of Their Dreams e-book can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December. Learn more on her website:!