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The Dating Rules, They Are A-Changin’:

Experts say it’s unattractive or desperate for a woman to ask out a man but studies show that 51% of female initiated dates led to a relationship that lasted more than 6 months!

Do we follow old rules so as not to rock the boat or are they really true?

As a woman, have you ever asked out a guy?  What happened?

As a man, have you ever been asked out by a woman?  Did it work out?

Women, would you be willing to accept this challenge and do a field study by breaking ‘The Rules?’

If any of you take me up on this, please report the results and let us know what happened!

To explore new dating etiquette and to challenge uniformed gender stereotypes in love, order my upcoming book:  When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman.

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of Dating from the Inside Out, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times.  Her new book, When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves into the Relationship of their Dreams ebook can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December.  Learn more about it on her website:!