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What 3 Things Does Your Book Say Is Important to Change on a Societal Level?

My book says a number of things that people can reflect upon.  The 3 main messages on a societal level are:

1. We need to effect an inner balance of Feminine and Masculine energy within ourselves:  As a career woman, when I got breast cancer I realized I needed to integrate more Feminine energy into my life.  For me this meant slowing down, listening to my heart more, taking time for my Spirit, my body and being in nature.  My book helps career women see the value of remaining a force in the outer world while attending to those exiled parts of themselves (that I just mentioned) too.  It also discusses the value of finding a man who is connected with his Feminine energy.

2. Men and women need to share all roles, including work, domestic tasks and childcare-

With Feminism women got political rights and were able to gain access to the workplace.  This was huge!  But many women feel more overburdened than ever with two jobs.  Now they need to excel at work and the home front.  They need help and it’s time for men to become more comfortable on the home front and to take a hands on role in their children’s care.  Many men are now really wanting to do this.

3. We need to realize that “love” means wanting your mates authenticity, full potential and wholeness-If someone came down from another planet (other than Mars and Venus) and read about our ideas of love, they would see a lot of game-playing and gender roles and stereotypes.  Many popular experts like John Gray, the Millionaire Match Maker, Dr. Pat Allen, The Rules authors and so many others still suggest that women take the feminine, passive approach in dating.  This is never questioned so women don’t try anything else.  For example, I quoted a stat in my book that showed that when woman asks a man out,  51% of female initiated dates lead to a relationship lasting more than 6 months!  So, do we advise things based on popular consensus or an ‘old world order?’  What would happen if we would be willing to look again, assess what is healthy now and be willing to try something new?  This would have huge implications for men, women and our children.

This ideas may not sound new in 2012 but I assure you its new from a dating coach, and when you look at the statistical split in domestic and childcare between men and women, it is clear that people are still not implementing these ideas.

To learn more about how this new dating paradigm can shift our societal consciousness and concept of love, buy When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Love Themselves into the Relationship of Their Dreams by Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman on Amazon now as an ebook or get the in print in December 2012!

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About this Author:

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, owner of My Dating School (, author of “Dating from the Inside Out”, published by Atria Books, a regular speaker at The Learning Annex and is the NY Love Examiner. She’s been an expert on television like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show. She’s been quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro news­papers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Complete Woman magazines, and the NY Times. Her new book,When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves Into the Relationship of Their Dreams e-book can be ordered on Amazon through October. It will come out in the print version in December. Learn more on her website:!